February 02, 2017

How to be Humble: Drawing out the Force of Humility

Learning how to be humble is easy. If you know what to look out for, and you put it into practice. The force of humility lives inside of all of us. We just need to learn how to draw it out.

In today’s age of projected confidence and self-obsession, a small dose of humility goes an extremely long way. Some of us have it, some of us don't. The point is, it can be learned. The force of humility is inside all of us, waiting to be drawn out. And the good news is, learning how to be humble is easy. If you know what to look out for, and you put it into practice.

Becoming More Humble

Many of us constantly strive to compose that perfect version of our self on social media. There's also those of us who try to put our best foot forward at school or in the workplace. The problem is, when we focus too much on projecting how we want people to perceive us, it can be easy to lose sight of what really matters. Our relationships and connections with other people and the larger world we all inhabit.

It's only when we learn to silence our own ego and connect with others in a humble and empathetic manner, that we open the door to a deeper happiness. One that transcends shallow feelings of pride and self-importance.

When we learn to accept humbly and honestly assess our faults and shortcomings, do we put ourselves on a path to an authentic form of success that cheap arrogance and self-aggrandizing could never support. In short, when you teach yourself  "how to be humble", you are really teaching yourself how to be better.

The Path of Humility

With the possible exception of narcissistic superstars such as Kanye West, few people regard themselves as absolutely perfect. Humility, in one form or another, is a generally universal human trait. However, most truly happy and generally successful people have discovered "how to be humble." But where, exactly, does the path to humility begin?

Quoting the ancient Tibetan Buddhist leader Geshe Langri Tangpa, the Dalai Lama follows this simple guide:
Whenever I interact with someone,
May I view myself as the lowest amongst all,
And, from the very depths of my heart,
Respectfully hold others as superior.
While this verse is certainly awe-inspiring and beautifully poetic, most modern people will find it to be lacking regarding practical and concrete advice.

How to be Humble

If aspiring to the lofty heights of divine enlightenment doesn't move you in some way, understandable. It's not for everyone. Still, however, there are ways you can reap the benefits that increased humility provides. So, buckle in. The handy tips and general guidelines below might be just what the Lama ordered!

1. Admit Your Mistakes

Nobody likes to be wrong, but in order to learn from your mistakes, you must first admit to them. In the article "13 Habits of Humble People" Forbes contributor Jeff Boss recognizes that far too many people blame "'the system' or the behaviors of others," when they could truly benefit from looking more closely at themselves.

2. Give Credit Where Credit is Due

In his examination of humility, Pastor Lawrence W Wilson stresses the supreme importance of praising others. To give credit to people who deserve it, and to take every opportunity to do so. "Pride makes us envious or resentful of another’s talents," Wilson writes. To break those negative and disempowering feelings, be genuine and compliment others.

3. Be Open To Learning From Others

In order to become truly humble, it's important to realize you don’t have all the answers. Instead, accept that there are things you don't know and that you’re not always 'the best' at everything. The reality is, no one does, and no one is. Once you can learn to accept this, you can begin to improve your life by asking the questions and learning from others.

4. Serve Others Who Are in Need

Just as humility allows you to benefit from others, it demands that you provide assistance when it is needed. One of the biggest secrets about life is; when you help others succeed, you are often helping yourself at the very same time. So keep this in mind the next time someone asks for your help.

When those times arise, rather than say "no" or "not right now," the online magazine Blindfold recommends using the response "I’d be honored". Respond. Give service. You may just be surprised at what life presents to you and who you become during the process.

5. Avoid False Modesty

Perhaps the most important thing to remember when striving for humility is to ensure that your humility is genuine. If your humility is only 'skin deep' or if you engage in false modesty, you will gain none of the very real benefits that humility has to offer.
True humility requires honest self-assessment.

See also: 5 Powerful Quotes Answering “What is Humility?”

Summon the Power of Humility

Learning how to be humble takes practice. If you want to live a happier and more successful life through humility, you can’t become more humble by simply willing it to happen. To draw out the force of humility inside of you, You must take action. Adopt the practical guidelines above whenever applicable into your own life. Use them to help keep unchecked egoism at bay and to help you maintain an authentically humble heart and mind.